When we’re immersed in our devices and we are disturbed by a question someone asks us who entered the room, we have to (annoyingly) look up.
Whether we were with our devices in hand or not, we have to leave our phone alone when someone wants our attention in the offline world.
It’s common courtesy.
Ask yourself: when the conversation ends, how fast are you reaching for your phone again?
Do you go for your smartphone when the person turns around and walks away?
Or when the person is out of sight only?
Or blatantly during the (what you think is the) conclusion of the conversation?
Picture the following scenario:
You walk with your friend to the bus because he or she is going home.
When your friend enters the bus, are you still looking at your friend or have you grabbed your phone already?
Many years ago I realized I wasn’t waiting for the bus to leave before using my favourite device.
How I noticed?
Because I saw another friend doing the same to me.
One day me and my friend said our goodbyes but before I entered the train I wanted to show him a final acknowledgment.
I turned around and instead of expecting that final adieu and acknowledgment from him, he was already on his phone.
Such moments are very important and additional opportunities for engagement and connection.
From that day on I convinced myself not to miss my phone so fast when I finished a conversation with someone.
That program that is running us, which makes us unable to keep our hands empty for 15 minutes has to stop.
So be mindful of your urge to go for your phone when you and your friend or partner or colleague depart.
Wait for the person to be out of sight.
While you may receive a notification at that very moment, still don’t reach for your phone.
When that person catches you on your phone so fast, you may convey the message that the conversation you had wasn’t that important.
Be in control of your phone. Notice that urge to place your hand in your pocket and then with that awareness: decide to postpone it.